For Parents and Caregivers

Learning that a child experienced violence is devastating. You may experience:

• Intense emotions like anger, fear, guilt, or helplessness.

• Conflict between wanting to be strong for the child and needing your own support.

• Difficulty trusting systems such as law enforcement, courts, or child protection agencies.

• Overprotectiveness or withdrawal as you manage reactions.

• Reactivation of your own trauma symptoms such as flashbacks, nightmares, or body memories.

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Remember:

• You do not need to have all the answers—showing up and listening is key.

• It’s okay to seek support for yourself while helping the child access care.

• Taking care of your own emotional well-being can help the child feel safer.

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Start with Safety and Connection

• Let the child know they are believed, and it is not their fault.

• Keep routines as consistent as possible; structure helps children feel safer.

• Offer comfort through a present, patient, and a calm tone.

• Avoid pressing for details from the child/children; allow professionals to guide the process (see below).

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Talk About Bodies, Boundaries, and Trust

• Use simple, clear language about body parts and private areas.

• Reinforce that it’s always okay to say “no” to touch or attention.

• Help the child identify safe adults in their life.

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Support Healing Together

Connect with SARA or your local sexual violence agency for support services, referrals, and resources for both children and caregivers.

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Take Care of Yourself, Too

• Prioritize rest, meals, and grounding activities.

• Reach out to friends, family, or survivor communities.

• Use professional supports like therapy and support groups.

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Processes and Professionals You May Encounter

• Child Protective Services and/or or law enforcement may be involved.

• If a medical exam is recommended, a trained provider can perform a gentle, child-focused examination.

• A trained interviewer from Foothills Child Advocacy Center talks with the child, providing an opportunity to share their experience. (foothillscac.org)

• Advocates from SARA and Foothills can provide emotional support, safety planning, connections to local resources, and assistance through legal processes.

• A team of professionals provide thoughtful coordination to address the child’s well-being.​​